We have just arrived from our beautiful holiday in Carmathenshire, South Wales.
I googled “the longest beach in the UK” and Cefn Sidan sands was one of them. 8 miles of beautiful, quiet sandy beach. The dogs enjoyed a good run and both J and I got a change to blow all the cobwebs away that the day to day life seems to build up.
Most of all I was very impressed how far the dogs have come. About a year and a half ago we had a very similar holiday, also in Wales, and the dogs were very stressed about all the change and hence were not particularly well behaved. This time they were exceptionally good, both inside the cottage and on our walks. It seems to me that pushing them to the edge (and often beyond) of their comfort zone and then returning back to normal routine has done them good. Since our last holiday we have had nine foster dogs and they have been left with the dogwalker several times which has meant that Benji is now called EX dog aggressive dog. I trust him 99% now, he is such a good boy when he is off lead. That said there has also been a big change in me too. I feel exceptionally content at the moment within myself and particularly Benji picks up on my moods very easily. I dont think we should ever underestimate how our own moods affect our animals.
Its a very interesting thing this comfort zone thing… It seems that the less we push ourselves (or our animals) to the edges of the zone, the smaller it becomes. The reason Benji was such a difficult dog was because he was not pushed to learn from new experiences by the previous owner(s). Hence he learned only one way to solve “problems” – launch, growl and bark (and bite…). Its been a long road of trial and error – for both of us – and I would do many, many things differently if I could to do it all again. I would stay much calmer throughout the whole process. I would know things will get better. I would know how, when and how much to expose him to new situations. I would just smile a big smile when I hear people making comments behind my back (instead of a sobbing attack…!).
We have both been pushed out of our comfort zone a lot and we are both stronger, calmer and happier indivuduals beacuse of it. I owe this dog so much. I really do.